“Invisible threads are the strongest ties.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
“Emotional Boundaries” Is A Contradiction Of Terms
Emotional bodies are inherently merging all the time. When we are with other people, our emotional fields are mixing and mingling constantly. We can feel instantly put off by someone who is a “downer” or perked up by someone with a tremendous amount of authentic positivity. It is why we isolate when we feel vulnerable and feel put upon by others when we need time to reset ourselves.
The heart’s magnetic field, the strongest rhythmic field the body produces, is a physical level of such interconnection. This field is filled with information about our body-mind state. We silently transmit information for anyone in our company to know. We also listen for transmissions from others. We are transceivers on an intimate level, and when we learn to tune our attention here, a world of quiet information and connection opens to us.
Merging With Other
Our body-minds are wired with an inherent urge to merge and ever beckoning us to swim a little deeper. Most merging is surface-level because we have been raised to defend against letting others truly know us. As we learn to let our guard down in natural ways such as sharing ideas, bantering, and humorous exchanges, we can glimpse the unity of which we are made. If we work on clarifying our surface, we become more and more able to see into the depths.
A common example of merging beyond our defenses is the experience of mutually falling in love. The rush of connection clears away the surface opacities and we begin to blend on deeper levels. Such connections are watery in nature, amorphous and requiring we ever adjust to the shifting of shape. We can learn to see beyond our identification for a time, entering into shared resonance. If we flow with it, it nurtures both mutuality and individuality.
Unity Is A Loss Of Control
Deep intermingling has a mind of its own. To enter it we must surrender to the designs of something greater than ourselves and allow the expanded whole to lead the seeming parts. Such merging is tidal, and we learn to enter in, surrendering, and then come ashore and reclaim ourselves again. Coming ashore helps us restore healthy boundaries, reforming the individual with a renewed sense of interconnection from which to relate.
It is not just between people that this occurs. The artist transceives with their art, the musician with their music, and the writer with their words. The gardener transceives with the garden as the hiker transceives with the forest. The surfer transceives with the waves as the skateboarder transceives with gravity. All of life is a part of the whole, and some aspect is always welcoming us into a moment of connection.
Suggested Divination Meanings
How can I open to a sense of merging with the person or situation at hand?
How can I better enter a true sense of connection rather than mimicking it?
Am I trying to hold on to a beautiful moment rather than flow with it?
Do I need to learn to let go of my individuality in some way?
What gifts are offered to me if I relax my sense of self?
What clarity arises by letting go of my individual perspective?
Can I find a deeper flow by more merging with my chosen art or other activity?
Who in my life is available for mutual communion, and can I honor that with my own availability?
In what ways do I hold the flow of life at bay because of cultural training?